Tuesday, July 3, 2018
Sunday, June 24, 2018
Skinny Shamed!!??
So ... I think I just got "skinny shamed".
I've been fat shamed before in real life, because I am a bit overweight, plus I'm just a bigger person in general. But now, I can honestly say I know what feels like on the other side of that coin.
I was DJ'ing at Fallen tonight and one of the VIPs made a comment along the lines of "gives River a cheeseburger and fries" ... and followed that up a while later with adding in some dessert. I didn't even know this person, and had not seen them before tonight.
I was kind of stunned.
I just made a new shape today, because I got the new [AK] Maia Bento head. I personally don't think I look too skinny, I think I have a rather athletic look, which I really like. I'm certainly not all skin and bones ... but you know what? Even if I was?
So what?!!
Its my choice as to what I look like in SL. There's just no reason that anyone should be shaming anyone for what they look like - large, small, tall, short, or otherwise!!
I've been fat shamed before in real life, because I am a bit overweight, plus I'm just a bigger person in general. But now, I can honestly say I know what feels like on the other side of that coin.
I was DJ'ing at Fallen tonight and one of the VIPs made a comment along the lines of "gives River a cheeseburger and fries" ... and followed that up a while later with adding in some dessert. I didn't even know this person, and had not seen them before tonight.
I was kind of stunned.
I just made a new shape today, because I got the new [AK] Maia Bento head. I personally don't think I look too skinny, I think I have a rather athletic look, which I really like. I'm certainly not all skin and bones ... but you know what? Even if I was?
So what?!!
Its my choice as to what I look like in SL. There's just no reason that anyone should be shaming anyone for what they look like - large, small, tall, short, or otherwise!!
Wednesday, June 20, 2018
Wow! So Much Time!
The only excuse that I can give for not posting to this blog since ... 2014?! Is that life has been pretty crazy in both RL and SL.
Fallen Angels BDSM Club is still open and going strong, thank you all very much! We have some amazing staff members, and even more amazing VIPs that bring a sincere sense of joy to Fallen. Even on the days when things are hard (and believe me, as a club owner you see a lot of those!), those people have a way of bringing a smile to my face and letting me know that in the end, its all going to be just fine.
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A lot of people talk about "family" in SL - and unfortunately, we see a lot of those families come and go on the grid. One day, everything is fine and dandy, and the next day, all hell has broken loose, people are hating on eachother, and the drama level has gone sky-high. I am so very fortunate, that, in my SL, I only have to watch that happening from a distance. Sometimes, a short distance, but still a distance. The little group of people that I have surrounded myself with since 2007 are, for the most part, still around, and I think that we are the true meaning of what family actually is. And, keep in mind, that some of these people have actually been around since BEFORE Second Life! That makes it even more special! Our little group has seen its ups and downs. There's been arguments, out and out fights, even a couple of deaths (RL) - but we have managed to keep hold of the true meaning of "family" throughout it all. I honestly don't think that I could be more blessed with a group of friends than I am right now, at this moment.
Ohana, Hakuna Matata, and all that jazz. :-D
Fallen Angels BDSM Club is still open and going strong, thank you all very much! We have some amazing staff members, and even more amazing VIPs that bring a sincere sense of joy to Fallen. Even on the days when things are hard (and believe me, as a club owner you see a lot of those!), those people have a way of bringing a smile to my face and letting me know that in the end, its all going to be just fine.
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A lot of people talk about "family" in SL - and unfortunately, we see a lot of those families come and go on the grid. One day, everything is fine and dandy, and the next day, all hell has broken loose, people are hating on eachother, and the drama level has gone sky-high. I am so very fortunate, that, in my SL, I only have to watch that happening from a distance. Sometimes, a short distance, but still a distance. The little group of people that I have surrounded myself with since 2007 are, for the most part, still around, and I think that we are the true meaning of what family actually is. And, keep in mind, that some of these people have actually been around since BEFORE Second Life! That makes it even more special! Our little group has seen its ups and downs. There's been arguments, out and out fights, even a couple of deaths (RL) - but we have managed to keep hold of the true meaning of "family" throughout it all. I honestly don't think that I could be more blessed with a group of friends than I am right now, at this moment.
Ohana, Hakuna Matata, and all that jazz. :-D
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
The Return of Fallen Angels BDSM Club and Tornadoes!
Let me just right to the big news! After negotiation, Master and I are the new owners of Fallen Angels BDSM Club. Yep, that's right. After listening to people lamenting it's disappearance for two years, we decided to try to do something about it. It's our sincere hope to return Fallen to what it once was - a home away from home .. a place where people can come and feel safe, whilst enjoying themselves. The build is very similar to that of the old Fallen build, with a few surprises, such as the Upper Floor - click things to find the hidden play rooms! You never know where one is going to be found! We have an amazing staff who is really standing firmly behind us, and we are looking to add to that staff. The Fallen online application is back up and running, and we hope to see some returns on that soon!
Opening night was AMAZING. We had nearly 60 people, and DJ Othius was on hand to lend his musical stylings for the big night. All of the dance poles were filled, and there was lots of conversation and welcoming familiar faces back home again.
Sunday was all about rest and relaxation, heh.
Monday, September 1st started quietly enough but towards the evening, things started to get intense in my RL. Storms started rolling in. Big ones. Lots of lightning and thunder .. and then severe thunderstorm warning happened. Less than 10 minutes later, that changed to a tornado warning. I barely had enough time to let Master know what was going on (we were on Skype) before the power started doing this weird fade in and out thing. Then it went totally out, came back on again, and there was a massive explosion near my house as a transformer blew up. Literally, there was a fireball. Of course at that point, the dogs and I were in the dark. I grabbed my phone and we headed for the bathroom. As we were going, I could hear the wind slamming against my house ... the windows were rattling violently, the door was shaking in it's frame, and the air conditioner was really struggling to stay put in the window. I heard a really loud bang against the house (that was my trash bin trying to fly away) and then the house started groaning ... By this time, the dogs and I were in the bathtub with the futon mattress over our heads, and I was frantically trying to call my children. My youngest daughter managed to get a call back to me, the tornado had touched down right by her work, but they were all safe in the walk-in. All in all, the majority of my city lost power, there were tons of downed trees (I'm talking, yanked up by the roots!) and debris everywhere. My power went down about 9:30pm Sept 1, and came back up around 3:30pm Sept 2nd. Kudos to the power people for working so hard to get things fixed!! As I understand it, they are still working hard, and there are still some pockets of town without power. Thank goodness it wasn't as hot as it was supposed to be, today. It would have been unbearable.
And that's a wrap up for my weekend. Here's to hoping for a quiet rest of the week, heh.
Love and Peace,
~R
Opening night was AMAZING. We had nearly 60 people, and DJ Othius was on hand to lend his musical stylings for the big night. All of the dance poles were filled, and there was lots of conversation and welcoming familiar faces back home again.
Sunday was all about rest and relaxation, heh.
Monday, September 1st started quietly enough but towards the evening, things started to get intense in my RL. Storms started rolling in. Big ones. Lots of lightning and thunder .. and then severe thunderstorm warning happened. Less than 10 minutes later, that changed to a tornado warning. I barely had enough time to let Master know what was going on (we were on Skype) before the power started doing this weird fade in and out thing. Then it went totally out, came back on again, and there was a massive explosion near my house as a transformer blew up. Literally, there was a fireball. Of course at that point, the dogs and I were in the dark. I grabbed my phone and we headed for the bathroom. As we were going, I could hear the wind slamming against my house ... the windows were rattling violently, the door was shaking in it's frame, and the air conditioner was really struggling to stay put in the window. I heard a really loud bang against the house (that was my trash bin trying to fly away) and then the house started groaning ... By this time, the dogs and I were in the bathtub with the futon mattress over our heads, and I was frantically trying to call my children. My youngest daughter managed to get a call back to me, the tornado had touched down right by her work, but they were all safe in the walk-in. All in all, the majority of my city lost power, there were tons of downed trees (I'm talking, yanked up by the roots!) and debris everywhere. My power went down about 9:30pm Sept 1, and came back up around 3:30pm Sept 2nd. Kudos to the power people for working so hard to get things fixed!! As I understand it, they are still working hard, and there are still some pockets of town without power. Thank goodness it wasn't as hot as it was supposed to be, today. It would have been unbearable.
And that's a wrap up for my weekend. Here's to hoping for a quiet rest of the week, heh.
Love and Peace,
~R
Thursday, August 28, 2014
Lazy Days...
I've had a few lazy days lately. Today was one of them.
Today, I took some pictures at a sim called Hazardous - it's one of my favorite places to go to take pictures, because I can get that sort of, post-apocalyptic look pretty easily there. Anyway, here's the results. I think the last one is my favorite.
Today, I took some pictures at a sim called Hazardous - it's one of my favorite places to go to take pictures, because I can get that sort of, post-apocalyptic look pretty easily there. Anyway, here's the results. I think the last one is my favorite.
Saturday, August 23, 2014
Catching Up and Other Interesting Things
It occurred to me, today, that I have not posted anything to my blog in quite some time! So, I am going to rectify that sad situation.
Needless to say, I've been pretty busy. We have some new staff in at EXILE, which has helped tremendously! I had taken on an extra DJ shift on Mondays, but have happily passed that on to Ray - who I am excited to say, made #17 on the SHX TOP 40 on his first appearance at EXILE! And, Jynxx is back!! Congrats and yay and stuff!! There's also been RL stuff going on - switching bedrooms in the house (which was a trial, let me tell you), and general cleaning. Got new blinds, hung those, thermal curtains, and then all of the nifty day-to-day stuff that goes on.
News on the mesh body front - #themeshproject has perhaps one of the BEST mesh body setups that I have seen to date. Those of you who have read my previous blogs on mesh bodies know that I was pretty hooked on my WowMeh. But, the Mesh Project ... wow. Every detail is pretty amazing! I went all the way and got the "babydoll" head, and the deluxe body, which came with mesh hands and feet also. Even when it was in beta, I didn't want to take it off. (Beta had no alpha layers.) I am REALLY looking forward to more clothing designers getting stuff out for #themeshproject!! Oh, AND, my fave skin designer, Pink Fuel, is set to start doing skins for them as well!! If anyone wants to get a free mesh body to try out, go into search on SL, and then under places, type in The Shops. When you land, you need to accept the folder of HUDs that they give you, and wear the shopping HUD to get started. Give it a try - you won't be sorry! I will get some pictures of mine up as soon as I am able to do so.
Lots of curiosity abounded this week with some mysterious announcements in the Fallen group about a return of the club. We're being told to "stay tuned" for more details, so I guess that is what we'll all have to do. Should be interesting to see what happens.
I guess that's about it for me, for now. Hopefully things slow down a bit so that I can actually get on here and update my blog more often! Quiet time is good. Yes. It is.
Love N Peace,
~R
Needless to say, I've been pretty busy. We have some new staff in at EXILE, which has helped tremendously! I had taken on an extra DJ shift on Mondays, but have happily passed that on to Ray - who I am excited to say, made #17 on the SHX TOP 40 on his first appearance at EXILE! And, Jynxx is back!! Congrats and yay and stuff!! There's also been RL stuff going on - switching bedrooms in the house (which was a trial, let me tell you), and general cleaning. Got new blinds, hung those, thermal curtains, and then all of the nifty day-to-day stuff that goes on.
News on the mesh body front - #themeshproject has perhaps one of the BEST mesh body setups that I have seen to date. Those of you who have read my previous blogs on mesh bodies know that I was pretty hooked on my WowMeh. But, the Mesh Project ... wow. Every detail is pretty amazing! I went all the way and got the "babydoll" head, and the deluxe body, which came with mesh hands and feet also. Even when it was in beta, I didn't want to take it off. (Beta had no alpha layers.) I am REALLY looking forward to more clothing designers getting stuff out for #themeshproject!! Oh, AND, my fave skin designer, Pink Fuel, is set to start doing skins for them as well!! If anyone wants to get a free mesh body to try out, go into search on SL, and then under places, type in The Shops. When you land, you need to accept the folder of HUDs that they give you, and wear the shopping HUD to get started. Give it a try - you won't be sorry! I will get some pictures of mine up as soon as I am able to do so.
Lots of curiosity abounded this week with some mysterious announcements in the Fallen group about a return of the club. We're being told to "stay tuned" for more details, so I guess that is what we'll all have to do. Should be interesting to see what happens.
I guess that's about it for me, for now. Hopefully things slow down a bit so that I can actually get on here and update my blog more often! Quiet time is good. Yes. It is.
Love N Peace,
~R
Saturday, July 12, 2014
Up and Coming SL Changes
As many of you probably already know, Linden Lab has recently announced some in-the-works changes for Second Life that have the potential to be pretty game-changing. I initially backed away from commenting on the announcement of some of those, because, lets be blunt here among friends - I've been in SL since 2007, and in that time, LL has announced changes and new policy, etc that has fallen by the wayside. I remember when voice was first brought in - hell, I remember the introduction of flexi-hair!! We've been through a lot together, SL and I.
First ... the announcement that there is, for lack of a better term, a "SL 2.0" in the works. Supposedly it is to be geared more towards content creators, which I am sure that they will be jumping up and down about. I, however, am not a true content creator. I build a few things here and there, but I can't honestly give myself that title. I'm on this ride to have some fun. I'm not really sure what to make of this idea from LL, so on this topic, I have to just sit back and wait and watch to see how things go. There seems to be a lot of "end of the world" talk going on - I don't think that is going to be the case. Second Life is the cash cow for LL. Why would you kill off your cash cow before the calf is even born? Think about that for a moment, and settle down. Please, for everyone.
Secondly, a new policy announcement from LL. The introduction of "gaming sims". Anyone running what LL defines as a "game of skill" (pay money in, get money out) has to do one of two things: Either pick it up and not use it, or reclassify your sim as a gaming sim to keep it. Sounds easy, right? Wrong. A gaming sim costs about $50.00 USD more a month in tier, number one. Number two, you have to have an operator's licence. More money. You also have to pay (I think) quarterly to keep said licence going. On TOP of that, anyone who doesn't have payment info on file is not going to be allowed to come to your new gaming sim. And, there will be some, who live in gambling restricted areas of the United States, who will not be allowed on your sim simply because gambling is not legal in their state, regardless of if they have payment info registered or not. Oh, and did I mention that the creator of said games has to pay to register with Linden Lab to even sell their gaming items?
Read about it here.
There's been a lot of forum discussion about this. People seem to be in a bit of a tizzy, and there isn't clear explanation from LL for some things. Example - Greedy tables can be paid into and can pay out. But, what if my Greedy table has that option turned off? Can I still have it in my club? Contest boards - what if people don't have to pay into them to join the contest? Are they exempt from this ruling? And, what about sploders? LL seems a bit vague in answering those questions, so I am looking for a more definitive statement from them in the near future to clarify things on that front.
There is one light in this tunnel that I am pleased to see. This will take care of places using things like Coin Search and Fish Hunt to game their traffic. By LL (and the people who own those "Games" own definition), it is a game of skill in which people win Linden. So, that would fall deeply into this ruling. What I am hoping to see happen is that we will start to see an actual traffic score for places instead of inflated traffic because of things like Fish Hunt. I've blogged about the traffic thing a few times now, please feel free to go back and have a read when you have a few minutes.
This is the part where I do some shameless finger-wagging and self-promotion by saying, EXILE will not be affected in terms of traffic because we never used Fish Hunt to pump up our daily traffic. I guess honesty truly does pay off in the end.
Anyway, its going to be interesting to sit back and watch all of this taking effect on the grid, to watch the traffic scores going on a roller coaster ride, and to watch people scrambling to be in compliance with the new LL policy.
I guess that's about it for me, for tonight. Its hot as hell here, and I am going to go and jump in a cool shower for a bit, then eat my dinner, and get ready for Sexy Saturday at EXILE. Yay!!
Love and Peace,
~R
First ... the announcement that there is, for lack of a better term, a "SL 2.0" in the works. Supposedly it is to be geared more towards content creators, which I am sure that they will be jumping up and down about. I, however, am not a true content creator. I build a few things here and there, but I can't honestly give myself that title. I'm on this ride to have some fun. I'm not really sure what to make of this idea from LL, so on this topic, I have to just sit back and wait and watch to see how things go. There seems to be a lot of "end of the world" talk going on - I don't think that is going to be the case. Second Life is the cash cow for LL. Why would you kill off your cash cow before the calf is even born? Think about that for a moment, and settle down. Please, for everyone.
Secondly, a new policy announcement from LL. The introduction of "gaming sims". Anyone running what LL defines as a "game of skill" (pay money in, get money out) has to do one of two things: Either pick it up and not use it, or reclassify your sim as a gaming sim to keep it. Sounds easy, right? Wrong. A gaming sim costs about $50.00 USD more a month in tier, number one. Number two, you have to have an operator's licence. More money. You also have to pay (I think) quarterly to keep said licence going. On TOP of that, anyone who doesn't have payment info on file is not going to be allowed to come to your new gaming sim. And, there will be some, who live in gambling restricted areas of the United States, who will not be allowed on your sim simply because gambling is not legal in their state, regardless of if they have payment info registered or not. Oh, and did I mention that the creator of said games has to pay to register with Linden Lab to even sell their gaming items?
Read about it here.
There's been a lot of forum discussion about this. People seem to be in a bit of a tizzy, and there isn't clear explanation from LL for some things. Example - Greedy tables can be paid into and can pay out. But, what if my Greedy table has that option turned off? Can I still have it in my club? Contest boards - what if people don't have to pay into them to join the contest? Are they exempt from this ruling? And, what about sploders? LL seems a bit vague in answering those questions, so I am looking for a more definitive statement from them in the near future to clarify things on that front.
There is one light in this tunnel that I am pleased to see. This will take care of places using things like Coin Search and Fish Hunt to game their traffic. By LL (and the people who own those "Games" own definition), it is a game of skill in which people win Linden. So, that would fall deeply into this ruling. What I am hoping to see happen is that we will start to see an actual traffic score for places instead of inflated traffic because of things like Fish Hunt. I've blogged about the traffic thing a few times now, please feel free to go back and have a read when you have a few minutes.
This is the part where I do some shameless finger-wagging and self-promotion by saying, EXILE will not be affected in terms of traffic because we never used Fish Hunt to pump up our daily traffic. I guess honesty truly does pay off in the end.
Anyway, its going to be interesting to sit back and watch all of this taking effect on the grid, to watch the traffic scores going on a roller coaster ride, and to watch people scrambling to be in compliance with the new LL policy.
I guess that's about it for me, for tonight. Its hot as hell here, and I am going to go and jump in a cool shower for a bit, then eat my dinner, and get ready for Sexy Saturday at EXILE. Yay!!
Love and Peace,
~R
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